Is HE the One?

In the movie Shrek 2, I remembered that this line was uttered: "Every princess wants to live happily ever after".

And every princess has a prince charming…

Hmm… it’s always a fairytale-influenced belief that "prince charmings" are the PERFECT guys. It’s always been part of every little girl’s fantasies to grow up into a princess, and eventually meet her destined prince.
Sadly, it’s not always the case.

WELCOME TO REALITY, BABY!

Sometimes, we, girls, try so hard to meet the RIGHT one. But we end up usually with the wrong one! And who’s to blame? No one.

I’m gonna share to you what I have read in the September 2004 issue of Candy magazine. It’s an article written by Gen Tiu, entitled "The Family Recipe for Prince Charming". Ok, here it goes:

"As we grow up, we come face to face with the fact that Prince Charming as we define him does not exist, and our search for such man may be in vain. The "perfect" guy, ironically, can never be perfect. In fact, he can have many irritating habits and flaws. Bottom line: no matter who that "perfect" guy is, it is best to STICK WITH REALITY when trying to figure him out and not the fantasy we had since we were eight years old."

So, how do we girls know if HE’S THE ONE?

According to her, the best and possibly most accurate place to look and picture out the guy in our dreams is right at our homes! Or even in one of those weekly get-togethers. In other words, we can picture out if the one we’re liking on is really worth it BY observing the boys who care about us (i.e. father, elder brother, cousin, grandpa) and seeing the good in them. These men (and young men!) have helped us mold into the girls we are now. Each of them has certain qualities that we may have once looked up to or may even unconsciously admire today!

THE MODELS

1. Daddy!
What I love about my dad is that he’s a hard-earner. Even though he’s tired, he always assures us of almost everything! He’s also responsible. He’s sincerely generous, too.
If he’s like dad… I can count on him because of the security that he has assured me. For me, relationships should be taken as long term. So, it’s big no-no for irresponsibility! If he’s like my dad, he can take care of me properly. He also knows his priorities and is aware on what to do next.

2. Elder Brother!
Though I’m the eldest, I know that elder brothers are protective, as what I have observed through my friends.
Brothers are really tough. But if we look hard enough, they’re good qualities will eventually surface! Older brothers are the ones who look out for their younger sisters and they make sure if they’re okay.
If he’s like an elder bro… it means he grew up with proper values since he holds his family with concern and respect. And I do think it’s a big plus since it would also make my parents happy. If he’s like an elder brother, I can be sure that I’m on his "top priority" list… he’ll treat me right.

3. My boy Cousin!
My cousins are really the wackiest and coolest people on earth!! I can purely be myself when I’m with them. We laugh together. We share the same jokes (we’ll even make fun of our parents and elders! Hahaha!!). Obviously, they’re fun to be with!
If he’s like my guy cousin… I can tell that he’s real because he’s fun to be with! He can be honest and brave with me because he’s natural and uninhibited. It’s nice because I will be certain that he has nothing to hide.

4. My Best Boy Bud!
He’s like a close friend with a little something extra! What I love about him is that he’s sensitive and considerate to me. That great sympathy he offers creates a deep connection between him and me. He’s my bestfriend! He can be my make-shift diary --- and he’s totally cool about it.
If he’s like my boy friend… I can put my trust in him, without doubts. I need someone who will be there for me no matter what.

Voila!!! Instant prince charming!

We all have different ideas on who should be "The One". Whoever he is, he should know his limitations and strong points. That is, he must know himself and his obligations first before getting to know the girl he’s liking. So you see, girls do not just consider affluence and beauty as bases for getting the "Prince Charming" title. It’s on the inside that counts. Always.


*Source : September2004 issue of candy magazine