Although I haven’t seen this, “War of Roses” is a 1989 motion picture starred by Danny de Vito (Batman Returns). “War of Roses” is a violent comedy flick, and it’s all about a bitter dispute between a husband and wife.
But long before there was “War of Roses”, there was already a prologue… and it’s not even a motion picture! It’s a phenomenon. It’s a natural occurrence since the time of Adam and Eve. And as long as the generations in the world exist, there’s always this: a discreet war between the two opposite sexes, the male and the female. Little wonder what women would think about men, and vice versa. What I ponder is that girls have a lot to complain about the boy species! Well, I don’t know about the males out there… hahaha! But don’t worry guys, I’m also giving out some criticisms regarding our OWN breed (the girls) afterwards.
One of the most annoying things about guys is that they tend to virtually brag about almost anything! From their girls, basketball games, PS2, cars,… you name it! Ever noticed how a group of guys talk with each other? Sorry guys, I’d rather call it trash-talking.
It’s always been said that girls mature faster than guys. As a matter of fact, it has been proven by various studies. In other words, guys are immature until they have reached the age of 18-21??! Can we blame them for being childish? Irresponsible? Here’s a proof: Notice the rooms/things of your teen brothers or cousins… isn’t it messy? If you’ll ask me, I have a brother who knows how to get wild and messy in his room but who doesn’t know how to arrange or clean it afterwards! Well, I don’t know about some other guys if they are an exception. Another thing is that they dread serious commitments (so girls, look more closely to your suitors)! But tell you what, they have a strong passion to change, but definitely have weak will power.
Who tease gays a lot? Answer: the boys, of course! I have a guy friend who really hate gays. Some boys say that it’s an insult to their species (duh!). Maybe they think that gays are weaklings (but if only they would look closely, gays are not THAT weak). Well, that may be true, but not always. Guys also tend to generalize about girls. They’re so “physical” (boys, don’t you dare lie!). If a girl is pretty and sexy, especially if she struts her long legs and shows-off her “fergalicious” curves, then she’s lucky because she’s going to be noticed by guys. But if she’s not, especially if she wears ordinary clothes, then it’s 50:50… harsh!
Want another one? Nah, maybe afterwards…
How about the girls? Hmmm…
Red-blooded females will always have this: the shopping-gene. Men may despise our being so-into-fashion-and-beauty attitude, but what can we do? Men don’t really hate us, girls, for going on shopping and makeovers… they just can’t be patient enough to wait for us to choose the right shade of lipstick or the perfect dress.
And when we (girls) have lain our eyes on that gorgeous pink purse, oh we can’t really help but filch our savings! When girls love what they see in stalls, most of the time they wanted to have those things. And then afterwards, they (or we!) realize that “oh, the lipstick just won’t match my skin color!” or “I’m not comfortable wearing this dress, it’s very tight”. Guilty? Fret not. Look meticulously at this paradox: Girls are more impulsive than guys, but are the best in terms of budgeting.
Ok, so I’ve come up with a somehow-unique realization…
Both sexes, male and female, are both EMOTIONAL beings! Guys, don’t ever deny, ok? I’m going to start with the guys first…
We all have insecurities. Am I right, or AM I RIGHT?? And that includes the males… absolutely. When you see a guy who is so happy and smiling, don’t be fooled; they may wear a mask that hides what they deeply and truly feel, either pleasant or awful. Oops! Does that mean that they are plastic? Think twice. Let’s just say that’s a defense mechanism.
A lot of ladies complain a lot about men. It’s usually in three words: dense, rude, and insensitive! Amen to that… What’s so “defensive” about that anyway? Guys, as much as possible, don’t want to wind up as an assuming person. When a girl wants something said, she doesn’t really say it straight. Instead, she does all sorts of things in order for a guy to comprehend what she’s trying to tell him. But of course, guys take it into consideration that they won’t read TOO MUCH on it, because they might make a fool of themselves by reading something which isn’t really there. And according to them, it’s safer to act dense or insensitive. Guys act dumb, or maybe they’re just plain dumb (sorry!). So now you know… guys just want to protect their sense of selves after all! Better call it PRIDE, anyway…
Speaking of pride! I would say that the most INFURIATING thing about men is that they have this superiority-complex attitude, especially towards women. They have this mindset that they are always “right” and therefore they should be followed (or worshipped, perhaps…). A lot of circumstances, I have been cheesed off by a guy who had the nerve to swank, from looks to intelligence (or whatsoever!). What is this? Overwhelming self-esteem? I prefer the term SELF-DOUBT.
When a person is unsure (or insecure!), he/she will either do two things: engage in self-absorption, or blame other people for his/her misery. I would say that boys would do the second option and then the first, afterwards.
But you know what? Guys are more rational than women in handling problems, despite of their hidden vulnerabilities and emotional incapacity. And that is what is missing in the girl’s gene: rationality.
On the worse flip side, girls care too much, either on other people or themselves. In three words: sensitive, moody, and fickle-minded! Girls are most of the time ruled by their hearts over their minds. Maybe it has something to do with the PMS (pre-menstrual syndrome), or maybe not. When we usually follow what and how we feel, we narrow our minds. And that is what I call IRRATIONALITY. And the consequence? Girls change decisions according to how and what they feel (fickle-mindedness). Girls frequently feel guilt, resentment, and regrets after making a bad decision.
But in the face of irrationality, one good thing about girls is that they (or we!) don’t withhold emotions for a long time. They ventilate. How? By crying, as often as not. Girls hold lesser grudges than men, because they don’t keep their feeling to themselves. They try to express it. Because they want to be heard and understood.
Guys = “insensitive” = ROBOTS!
Girls = “vain/irrational” = BARBIES!
I could say that robots are always robots, and barbies are always barbies. In full honesty, boys will be boys… and girls will be girls. But nevertheless, both share the same rights. Both have faults, but both have good aspects. Both have edges on one another. No competition, please. Because if there is, no one will win in God’s eyes. The key is great understanding, in order for both sexes to get along well and relationships to work out. Well, is it so hard to ask? You decide.
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